Build A Bridge And Get Over It

Anger could often times get the best of one of my friends. Loud, angry outbursts happened when he would get frustrated, wasn't sure how to proceed or not be able to get his way. This never really sits well with people in a learning environment. I was being called into the classroom on a frequent basis to get involved and typically remove my friend when he lost it. After several visits, we had a long talk so that I could figure out why he was loosing control and letting his anger get the best of him. 
These weren't the first anger episodes that he had. I had already taught him the strategies that are in the story. One word of caution.., In this story I mention his strategies that were previously taught. Be very careful that you break down steps into short segments. You don't want to throw in too much information or cover too much in one story. You could have a series of 10-15 stories that are broken down into little steps to help mold your friend into the right directions. 
As with every story, repetition and practice are key. When I write a story, I always email a copy to the teacher, the parent and then make a hard copy for the student to put in their own book of stories. These need reviewed. Just when you think you have one issue under control, it comes back to haunt on occasion. Enjoy!

I have had some difficulties with dwelling on things and not letting go of events that have happened. This is a problem, because it blocks my brain from taking in other information and learning.

When I become overly attentive to a topic or a person's character flaws (which are things that aren't perfect about them), it interferes with my functioning. When I dwell too much on one  topic, I forget important things like daily routines, procedures, social interactions (for example, saying "good morning" to my friends and teachers) and I let my thoughts take over.

This will cause problems for me personally, I may not hear important information from the adults in my life or I might even miss an invitation from a friend (for example, "Hey, do you want to play at my house after school?) I miss out on important information if I am dwelling on a topic that I cannot let go.

I have to learn to "build a bridge" and get over things and people that really bother me. I can use strategies to help me through this dwelling.  Some strategies will be important for me to try when I can't keep my mind from sticking on one topic that makes me crazy.

First, I should try to refocus and blow off the thing or person that bothers me. If that doesn't work, I could try to write down my thoughts. I can try some of my strategies that I use all of the time like: counting backwards, taking deep breaths, using fidgets, reading, taking a break or a walk and journal writing. If I still have trouble not letting something go, I can always talk to an adult about it.

In my life things will not always go my way. There will be people and obstacles that I will not like. If I focus on the good things and positive things around me, usually the things that I don't like will fade away, By "building a bridge" and getting over things, my life will be less stressful and happier.