Life Isn't Fair

It is often tough to stay firm and strong and consistent with friends who pitch a fit to get their way. This friend was a master of tantrums. His favorite line was "It's not fair." When that came out of his mouth, a tantrum was sure to follow. He was taught several calm down strategies and then there was a ton of practice. His tantrums decreased. When you give your friends a strategy or way out of the throwing fits cycle,  they have other options that feel better and help them calmly get through their disappointments when things don't go their way. This is never a quick fix, but if home, school and the kid all have the same strategy in place, you will see results. Try it yourself. Enjoy!

I am in 3^rd grade, but will soon be in 4^th. There are times when life is not fair. I don’t always get to do what others are doing and don’t always get to have what others have.

That is the way things are. I get what I get and shouldn’t throw a fit. When I feel like things aren’t fair, there are many strategies to try.

First, I should try to take slow deep breaths. If that doesn’t work, I could count backwards. (20, 19, 18, 17, 16,15,…) If that isn’t working, I could try to talk about it or journal about it. If that isn’t working, I could take a break. I have lots of options.

I have to calm down. It doesn’t do any good to lose control. Life will never be fair. I can’t always have what others have and I may not always get to do what others do.  If I try to use my strategies for times when Life Isn’t Fair, then I may be able to calm down and have a rockin’day.